How I Learned to Make Gravy Instead of Wallpaper Paste

When Hubcaps and Gravy started getting requests on how to make gravy; and my husband asked me to write a blog with my gravy recipes, I know he thought it would be easy. Just include my recipes; and I’m done, right? Wrong! It’s not as easy as it sounds. You see, I was taught to cook by my mother and grandmother; and there were some things she taught me to make that just don’t have a written family recipe. Gravy is one of those things. So, I always make gravy without a recipe. That doesn’t help you make gravy though.

I’m sure by now you are thinking that I’m probably not the right person to be telling anyone how to make gravy; and maybe you’re right. However, it’s important for you to know that I am part of a large southern family just filled with excellent cooks. My grandmother, Lula Frances Grogan, was the best cook I have ever known. She knew the secret ingredient that makes everything taste better…Love. My husband always says he can tell when I’ve quickly thrown a dish together without putting in the love.

So, I don’t have the qualifications of a trained chef; but I’m a darn good cook if I do say so myself. I wasn’t always a good cook. If memory serves, I was nineteen years old when I first attempted to make gravy. I had cooked some sausage patties; and was using the drippings for my gravy. I was confident. Just put in the flour and milk, then stir until it thickens. So, I put in the flour…a lot of flour; and I poured in the milk. I stirred. My gravy thickened…quickly. I poured (translation: dumped) it from the skillet into a bowl; and brought it to the table with the spoon standing straight up in the middle. I could have used it for wallpaper paste. I was wondering what the heck happened. My mother and grandmother always made it seem so easy.

Several years and a whole lot of experience later I can now make all kinds of gravy like Sawmill Gravy and Frog-eye gravy (aka red-eye gravy) that is not only edible; but very tasty. Just in case you’re wondering, those are real gravy names. I didn’t make them up. Of course, I absolutely can’t leave out Chocolate Gravy, a southern treat. Here are the recipes:

Sawmill Gravy

1 pound of your favorite breakfast sausage

¼ cup flour

2 cups milk
salt and pepper to taste

Crumble sausage; and cook in an iron skillet until golden brown and done. Remove the sausage and all of the fat except 2 tablespoons. Reduce heat to low. Whisk the flour into the fat; and cook for about 5 minutes. This flour and fat mixture is called a roux (pronounced: “ru”). Pour in the milk very slowly while constantly stirring it into the roux. Return heat to medium-high. Simmer and stir occasionally while the gravy thickens. Scrape up any brown bits that are stuck to the pan for flavor. Taste; and add salt and pepper as desired. Add the cooked sausage; and serve over hot biscuits.

Note: You can use this recipe after frying bacon, chicken, ground beef, pork chops, etc. Of course, don’t crumble in cooked sausage at the end.

Frog-eye Gravy (aka Red-eye Gravy)

According to folklore and not necessarily facts, Andrew Jackson (1767-1845), 7th President of the United States, who was an American General at the time, called for his cook to tell him what to prepare for the morning meal. The cook had been drinking "moonshine" the night before and his eyes were rimmed in red. Looking at his red eyes, General Jackson instructed the cook to bring him some country ham with gravy as red as his eyes. Some men nearby heard the general and from then on, ham gravy became "Red Eye Gravy."

Slices of salt-cured country ham
½ cup water
½ cup black coffee

Fry the ham in an iron skillet until done. Remove to a platter; and keep warm. Pour in the black coffee and water. Bring to a boil while stirring and scraping any browned ham bits off the bottom the pan. Boil for 1 – 2 minutes. Pour into heat proof pitcher. Serve with the ham, biscuits, eggs, and grits.

Chocolate Gravy

¾ cup sugar

¼ cup flour

3 – 4 tablespoons cocoa

pinch of salt

¼ to ½ cup cold water

2 cups milk

4 tablespoons butter

1 teaspoon vanilla

Mix all dry ingredients except the salt together in a heavy saucepan. Add just enough cold water to blend the dry ingredients together. Stir until there are no lumps. Stir in the milk until well blended. Place saucepan over medium-high heat. Add the butter. Cook and stir constantly until gravy thickens, about 5 minutes. Remove from heat. Stir in the salt and vanilla. Serve over hot buttered biscuits. Great with fresh sliced strawberries.

Well there you have it. Just about any kind of gravy you could want to make. If you are looking for a recipe to make gravy to go along with the beautiful turkey you’re roasting for Christmas, click here. Enjoy and Happy Holidays!

Are Electromagnetic Fields Really Harmful? Helpful Tips for Avoiding EMFs

Are you dain bramaged? That’s brain damaged for those of you who aren’t. Is your DNA unraveling? Can you remember what you had for breakfast this morning? How’s your sperm production? These are only a few of the ailments potentially caused by the many electronic gadgets that most of us own and use daily. We have compiled helpful information to keep you informed and tips to help you avoid these disorders.


Each gadget from cell phones to hair dryers has potentially dangerous electromagnetic fields (EMFs). EMFs are emitted from places you would never suspect like wall outlets, electric blankets, dimmer switches, refrigerators, electric razors, digital cameras, and even those electronic collars that cats and dogs wear. Although, it may sound paranoid to believe these EMFs are harmful; there is some compelling evidence they are dangerous.

France has banned cell phone use for children. Several other countries including Canada, the UK, and Russia discourage cell phone usage by children. Researchers have found that people who use their cell phone by holding it against one side of their head for several hours a day are 50% more likely to develop cancer on that side of their face. Exposure to EMFs has been linked with memory problems, miscarriage, birth defects, sleep disturbances, depression, and heart disease. Pish Posh, you say? Well, so did we; but we’d rather be safe than sorry. So, the first step everyone must take is to get and wear an aluminum foil hat. Okay, just kidding. Here are some real tips for reducing the risks.

Do a sweep of your home and office. Check room by room for hazards. Make a list. How many electronic and wireless devices do you have? Were you surprised by the number of devices on your list? Are there any on the list you can live without? If so, get rid of them.

Be smart with your cell phone. Keep it away from your head. Don’t carry it in your pocket when it is turned on. Don’t make calls in basements or cars because the phone has to work harder to get the signal out, which means more powerful EMFs. Texting is safer as long as you are not driving. Restrict use by children. Do children really need a cell phone? Wonder what they would rather have, a cell phone or a brain tumor?

Consider going back to and using corded phones when you are at home. We realize “laptop” includes “lap”; but don’t use your laptop on your lap. Laptops emit too much radiation for your lap, lap, lap. Televisions emit magnetic fields that interfere with the hormone melatonin which governs our sleep-wake cycle. Keep them out of the bedroom. Keep furniture away from walls as much as possible. Wiring may expose you to dangerous EMF levels. Gas doesn’t produce EMFs; so use it for cooking, water-heating, and clothes drying, if you can. Electric stoves and ovens emit EMFs that can reach up to two feet away.

There is also evidence that not being exposed to naturally occurring EMFs can have a negative affect on health. Kyoichi Nakagawa, M.D., director of the Isuzu Hospital in Tokyo, Japan, observes that the amount of time people now spend in tightly enclosed spaces like buildings and cars reduces their exposure to the geomagnetic field of the earth and may cause "magnetic field deficiency syndrome”. This can result in headaches, dizziness, muscle stiffness, chest pain, insomnia, constipation, and general fatigue. For more information read EMF GOOD VS. BAD.

If you still feel uneasy, wear the aluminum foil hat. What could it hurt? Be watching next week for tips on “The Harmful Affects of Wearing Aluminum Foil Hats”. Just kidding!

Helpful Tips for Buying Christmas Gifts on a Budget

Budgeting is mandatory in hard times. Running up credit card debt this Holiday Season is not the answer. Our hints and tips, low prices, creative ideas, and smart budgeting will help you have a Merry Christmas and a Happy New year WITHOUT ADDED DEBT!

There are easy ways to stay within your weekly budget and still give everyone a gift; BUT, you need to start today. We are going to show you two easy things to start doing today; and also, show you gift ideas that will help you stay within your budget.

1. Do you visit Starbucks or your local coffee shop on your way to work everyday? Skip it and save $5 to $8 a day. In just two weeks that’s $50 to $80 you can spend on gifts.

2. Take your lunch to work instead of eating out. That’s a savings of $50 to $100 a week. In just two weeks that’s another $100 to $200 in your pocket for buying gifts.

With just two easy steps you have between $150 to $280 to spend on Christmas gifts without increasing your budget one penny. For you it might be skipping the movies a few times or going out to dinner. A few sacrifices now will save you a lot later.

$150.00 Shoestring Budget Gift Ideas

Gift for Baby - Caterpillar Grasping Toy by Melissa & Doug - $9.98
Gift for Preschooler - Alphabet Nesting & Stacking Blocks - $12.98
Gift for Girl - Melissa & Doug Decorate-Your-Own Piggy Bank - $9.98
Gift for Boy - Air Puck Hockey Game - $13.98
Gift for Girlfriend or Wife - Fresh Water Pearl & Turquoise Chandelier Dangle Earrings - $17.98
Gift for Female Friend - Blush Pearl Bracelet with Swarovski Crystals - $9.98
Gift for Male Friend - Fleur-de-lis Pendant Leather Cord Necklace - $8.98 Sold Out
Gift for Computer User - USB 2.0 Hub Robot - $17.98
Gift for Hostess - Silver Birch Leaf Votive Holders - $14.98
Gift for Mom - Floral Handbag with Bamboo Handles - $12.98
Gift for Dad - Red Ice Cream Scoop & Stack - $15.98

Total $145.78

That’s 11 Great Gifts for less than $150.00!

$280.00 Big Budget Gift Ideas

Gift for Baby - Phoenix Crochet Baby Blanket - $30.98
Gift for Preschooler - Melissa & Doug Band-in-a-Box - $24.98
Gift for Boy - Turbospoke Bike Toy - $18.98
Gift for Girl - Melissa & Doug Bake & Decorate Cupcake Set - $19.98
Gift for Girlfriend or Wife - Peridot & Sterling Silver Necklace & Matching Stud Earrings - $43.96
Gift for Female Friend - Phases of the Moon Handmade Necklace - $21.98
Gift for Male Friend - Sterling Silver Eagle Necklace - $19.98 Sold Out
Gift for Computer User - USB LED Lamp & Fan - $19.98
Gift for Hostess - Take 2 Red Apron - $26.98
Gift for Mom - Cuisipro Stainless Steel Measuring Cups - $29.98
Gift for Dad - USB Travel Shaver - $19.98

Total $277.76

That’s 11 Fantastic Gifts for under $280.00!

Some helpful hints and tips, a little sacrifice, and a few good ideas will help you have a more relaxing enjoyable holiday season without adding credit card debt or increasing your budget. Don’t procrastinate! Start using these guidelines today. Have a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!

Virus Alert

ThinkPoint Virus Alert and Free Fix


After you have used all the information contained in this article run a full free computer safety scan from Microsoft at this link: http://onecare.live.com/site/en-us/default.htm?s_cid=sah: You can also call Microsoft for free help through this link, for your version of windows : http://windows.microsoft.com/en-US/windows/help/contact-support

This article is for information purposes only and we are not liable or accountable for its contents. This worked for us and we felt obligated to pass it along to you.

Our hints and tips article this week deals with a virus we got on one of our computers. The dos and don’ts should be followed to the letter. We provide you with information you will need if your computer does become infected, and to help you keep informed.

Print and Save this article in case this happens to you! You will need these instructions to start fixing your system! Yesterday one of Hubcaps and Gravy’s computers got a virus from an e-mail. The e-mail subject read, "Unable to deliver package to your address”. It appeared to be from a common carrier. When opened we got a security alert Win32/Trojan alert. The only thing that would come up was a Microsoft “looking” security program called ThinkPoint. Do Not buy anything From ThinkPoint! We tried using http://microsoft.com; and using their fix. It did NOT work. We were lucky to have a second computer to use in searching for a fix. We found the following helpful information at bleepingcomputer.com  and wanted to share it with you.

What this infection does:

ThinkPoint is a fake rogue anti-spyware program that is part of the Fake Microsoft Security Essentials infection. When this infection is installed on your computer it will display a fake Microsoft Security Essentials alert that states that it has detected an Unknown Win32/Trojan on your computer. It will then prompt you to scan your computer, which will start a fake scan of your computer that ultimately states that C:\Program Files\Messenger\msmsgs.exe is infected with Trojan.Horse.Win32.PAV.64.a and that it will install ThinkPoint to remove the virus. It will then prompt you to press the OK button, which will reboot your computer to finish the installation.

When your computer reboots you will be presented with the ThinkPoint start screen before your normal Windows desktop is shown. It then prompts you to scan your computer, which will state that your computer is infected with numerous infections. It will not, though, allow you to use your computer as the Windows desktop or the Windows task manager will not be allowed to run until you purchase the ThinkPoint program. In fact if you try to close the program it will state that "Current settings don't allow unprotected startup. Please check your settings.". As you can see this program is a scam as it is ransoming the proper operation of your computer until you purchase it. It goes without saying that you should not purchase this program for any reason.

The ThinkPoint infection will not allow you to access your desktop. Therefore, we will need to follow certain steps to close the infection process so that you can regain access to your desktop. When you first start your computer you will most likely be presented with the ThinkPoint start screen as shown below.

1. When you see this screen, do not click on any of the buttons. Instead click on the Ctrl, Alt, and Delete button at the same time to bring up the Windows Task Manager. The best way to do this keyboard combination is to hold down the Ctrl and Alt key at the same time and then press the Delete key while holding the other buttons down. Once you do this, it will successfully launch the Task Manager or screen where you can select the Task Manager to be run.

2. When the Task Manager starts, click on the Processes tab.

3. You will now be at the Processes tab as shown in the image below.

4. When you are at the above screen, scroll down through the list of running processes and left-click once on the hotfix.exe process.

5. Once the hotfix.exe process is higlighted, click on the End Process button. When you press this button, Windows will ask if you are sure you want to terminate the process. You should press the Yes button to terminate it.

6. ThinkPoint will now be terminated and you will be at a blank screen with Task Manager running. Now click on the File menu and select New Task (Run...) from the menu.

7. When the Create New Task prompt appears, type explorer.exe into the Open: field and press the OK button. After a minute or so you should be back at your Windows desktop.

At this point start “Internet Explorer” and go to this page! http://www.bleepingcomputer.com/virus-removal/remove-thinkpoint  You have done everything up to # 9 on the fix, and need to follow the instructions completely. Do Not Stop or you will have to start over!

It is possible that the infection you are trying to remove will not allow you to download files on the infected computer. If this is the case, then you will need to download the files requested in their guide on another computer and then transfer them to the infected computer. You can transfer the files via a CD/DVD, external drive, or USB flash drive.

The software you download will fix your computer with a scan that may last for hours. Our computer took 6 hours to run the scan. Let it run! When the scan ends with all the infections listed, you can delete them. Thank you bleepingcomputer.com for this helpful and valuable information; and especially for the FREE fix.

Important: Then use  Microsoft Safety scan. Use the full scan version.

Our hints and tips, dos and don’ts, and help you keep informed page is looking to help. If you have a good tip that you think people need to read, send us an email at service@hubcapsandgravy.com.

Tips for Serving Turkey to a Turkey

You’ve just spent days cleaning, decorating, and cooking in preparation for the big family holiday celebration. You are excited, exhausted, and a little worried. Will your mom hover over you while you prepare the meal, telling you everything you are doing wrong? Will Grandma hound your thirty-something sister incessantly about when she will marry and have a baby? Will your dad insist on carving the turkey while waving around the carving knife in front of your new husband? Will Uncle Billy drink too much and tell Aunt Martha the reason she never married is because she looks like the rear end of a buffalo? What do you do outside of hiring a family therapist to be in attendance? We have a few hints and tips that just may help keep the peace.

Family members who try to help by telling you where you are going wrong usually mean well, especially moms and dads. If the torch has passed to you to host the holiday festivities mom and dad may be feeling a little left out or useless. This could be the underlying cause of their well meant yet unwanted “help”. Let them be helpful. Think about it beforehand; and put them in charge of a task that will keep them out of the kitchen. Ask dad to serve the drinks; and mom to set the table in the dining room.

One of our best helpful hints is that some topics should be avoided like the plague such as politics and religion. However, if someone does tread into these waters and a heated discussion arises; try not to take sides. If asked your opinion, sidestep. An answer like “I’m much too busy enjoying my meal to voice an opinion on that right now” can diffuse the situation by bringing the involved parties minds back to the meal.

No matter how hard you try to keep some family members from going at it; there seems to always be those two cousins who just can’t seem to stand each other. The best thing to do is keep them apart. Seat them on opposite ends of the dinner table. Put them in separate rooms if possible. For more dos and don’ts on seating arrangements, read “Top Tips for Successful Seating Arrangements”. If they still seek each other out so that they can have their annual argument, then so be it. Just go with the flow. Unless they try to draw everyone into their drama or start to throw punches let them be.

Use the shock factor. If you’ve gently tried to direct a conversation gone wrong into another more uncontroversial area and nothing seems to work, blow them out of the water by asking if they had sex this morning. If that doesn’t work, lie. Yes, we said lie. Say “did you know Aunt Martha is having an affair with a man half her age?” Even though you know it’s a lie you will get everyone’s attention; and the conversation will move in a different direction.

Probably our best tip of all is to use humor. Laughter helps everyone relax and have a good time. That is what it’s all about, isn’t it? Whenever you sense that a discussion is headed in the wrong direction, try to inject some humor. Most families have funny stories that make everyone laugh. Remember the time Holly fell in the creek; or when we were chased by killer bees at the fair? Trust me, it was funny! There’s nothing wrong with planning ahead and having some stories or jokes in reserve.

For more helpful hints read “Every Family Has A Turkey - Tips for Keeping the Peace”.

If you’ve tried all our hints and tips and mayhem still breaks out, pull up a comfy chair, sit back, and enjoy the show. There’s always next year, right?  More Hints and Tips

What’s the Difference between OEM and Remanufactured HP Printer Ink?

The question arises when looking to replace ink cartridges as to what type of cartridges are best to get, OEM or remanufactured ones. There is an open battle between original printer ink and generic cheaper ink most sought for after a faltering economy. One of the first reasons consumers are looking for alternative ink is the incredible high prices when purchasing Original HP ink. Because OEM cartridges are substantially higher priced than cheaper generic or remanufactured cartridges is there a reason why to choose them?

It is important to note that HP is always releasing new printer models sometimes faster than the old ones gather dust. This is a way of making sure users purchase Original cartridges because it takes several months for generic manufacturers to get up to speed on OEM cartridges do have plenty advantages that should not be left untold. They printer has been developed to achieve specific printing results with the help of Original HP printer ink cartridges and thus assuring a longer life expectancy and excellent results. OEM cartridges also provide a guarantee on the length of time a photo or graphic last when printed with original ink and also HP paper.

Now remanufactured HP printer ink has the huge advantage of low cost. With the price of an original cartridge people can purchase two remanufactured and pay for shipping charges and sometimes still have money left. It is important to watch out for fake and badly remanufactured HP printer ink cartridges so choose ISO-9001 certified companies, make sure they have a long and complete money back guarantee and long should be no less than a year. Not everyone uses printer cartridges immediately after purchasing and if the cartridge has only 60 days they get stuck with a defective item. Both type of cartridges have their pro's and con's the choice is yours.

Helpful Tips for Avoiding Colds and Flu

Cold and flu season is here; and none of us want to be sick. So, what do we do to avoid those nasty germs that seem to be lurking everywhere? We compiled some common sense tips that will help you stay healthy.

Wash your hands. Let’s say that again. WASH YOUR HANDS! This is one of the best tips that we can give you. Wash your hands often throughout the day. Don’t just give your hands a quick rinse under the faucet. Using warm water and soap and washing for at least twenty seconds will kill germs. If you can’t wash your hands, then use hand sanitizer. Keeping a small spray bottle of alcohol in your purse or your car is another helpful hint. Every time you return to your car take a moment to liberally spray your hands with alcohol. Follow with moisturizer if they get too dry.

Even with lots of washing, hands are still germ breeding grounds. Avoid putting your hands near your mouth or nose. This may take some effort on your part to break a habit; but getting through cold and flu season without getting sick will make the effort more than worthwhile. Of course, if you are sick and are coughing or sneezing be sure and cover your mouth so that you aren’t spreading your germs. After a cough or sneeze is the perfect time for a good hand washing.

We all know work and public places are probably the best places to pick up germs that cause all kinds of nasty viruses. At work, don’t handle door knobs, keyboards, telephones, files, or anything else that is unnecessary. While shopping, avoid touching anything that you don’t need to touch. If you visit a public bathroom, use a paper towel to turn off the faucet after washing your hands. Also, use a paper towel to open the bathroom door to get out. If you need to sign paperwork use your own pen, not one provided by a coworker or clerk. If you bring your lunch to work or eat out, try and have something that is eaten with a spoon or fork rather than your hands. If you do eat a sandwich wrap it in a napkin.

If you come in contact with someone you suspect has a cold or the flu be sure and wash your hands or use a sanitizer as soon as possible. If someone at home gets sick wipe down all the surfaces they come in contact with using a disinfectant cleaner or alcohol. Wash pillows and bedding they have used. More hand washing is in order, too!

To read other tips for staying healthy in the cold and flu season, check out “Preventing Cold & Flu: How Doctors Keep Germs at Bay”. Be well!

Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Years, Oh My

Christmas is the holiday when most of us have the most to do; so we focused our attention on helpful hints to make your Christmas as hassle free as possible. However, you can use these guidelines for all your holidays.

1) Don’t let procrastination get the better of you. Read “Procrastination…Why Do We Do It?”.

2) Make a list of all that needs to be done such as hanging Christmas lights, buying gifts, putting up the tree, the baking and cooking, decorating, meal planning, house cleaning, gift wrapping, etc.

3) Prioritize your list. Determine when each task must be done and when each task can be done.

  a) Reservations should be made first. Reservations for transportation and hotel might be difficult or

      impossible when the holiday is near. If you plan to dine out on a holiday make your reservations early;

     then check back in a few weeks to confirm.

  b) Christmas lights and artificial trees can be put up as soon as Thanksgiving weekend or even earlier if you  prefer. Buy fresh trees one to two weeks before Christmas day

   c) Start looking for and buying gifts during your normal shopping trips, the earlier the better. In fact shopping  online is even easier, less stressful, and safe. Learn what to look for in “A Guide to Safer Internet Shopping”.

   d) Buy one or two universal gifts just in case someone pops in unexpected. A great tip here is to pick up cheese and sausage gift packs or boxes of chocolates. These are readily found at Christmastime; and they make great gifts for anyone. Wrap gifts as soon as you buy them; then you won’t get stuck staying up late wrapping a mountain of gifts all at once. For more helpful information on how to stretch your shopping budget read “How to Spend Wisely and Money Saving Tips” and “How Can I Afford Christmas Gifts?”.

   e) We all want our homes to be spotless for the holidays, especially if company is coming. However, now

is not the time for spring cleaning. With all the extra tasks that must be done, there simply isn’t time. Do a general cleaning and straightening of the bedrooms, dining room, den, etc. a few days ahead of time. Leave the bathrooms and kitchen until the day before. Give them a quick wipe down just before guests arrive.

   f) Make a grocery list for the holidays; and buy what you need during your regular shopping trips. Buy

items that will keep on the shelf or in the freezer several weeks ahead. Forgotten items can be picked

up on your next shopping trip.

   g) Prepare any foods that you can one or two days ahead of time; and keep in the refrigerator. You don’t want to spend all Christmas day stuck in the kitchen cooking.

4) Great job so far; but there is one big thing that can ruin everything on that special day if you aren’t prepared. How do you get a hot 20 lb turkey, roast, or ham out of your roasting pan and onto a cutting board or platter? It’s not as simple as just lifting the rack out of the pan. Getting it off the rack without it falling apart is something we struggled with for years. We tried all kinds of racks, nets, large forks, towels, and gloves. You name it; we tried it. Finally, we found a special rack that blew us away! No more burned

fingers or hands! No more turkey legs on the floor! In 30 seconds our 22 lb turkey was out of the roaster and on the platter ready to be carved! Give yourself and your family a big Christmas gift! You will not regret purchasing this roasting rack. We guarantee you will love it! Vist our Hints and Tips page for the latest tips.

Don’t Pull Your Hair Out – Get Organized!

Can’t find your car keys? Always wonder where you put your cell phone? Do you search for a pen every time you need to make a note? Are you constantly buying new items because you can’t remember where you put the one you already bought? Do you want to pull out your hair because you can never find anything? If this is you, you may have mischievous elves stealing your stuff; OR maybe you are just disorganized. If it’s the latter we have some tips and helpful information to get your life in order.

Just as procrastination adds stress to our lives, so does disorganization. As the old proverb says “Everything has a place and everything in its place”. These are good words to live by. Organizing everything from your kitchen cupboards to your time only makes good sense; and will help make your life less stressful. In this article our tips focus mostly on organizing your home. Watch for future articles regarding time organization.

One of the first things and maybe the most important thing that anyone should do to get organized is to “declutter”. Get rid of anything that you don’t use. A good rule of thumb is that if you haven’t used it in a year, you probably don’t need it. If it’s unusable throw it away or recycle, if possible. Donate usable items to your favorite charity. A big problem in this area is what to do with items of sentimental value. Most of us have at least one item that we hold dear. Make these items useful by using them in some way. If it’s an old ticket stub, frame it and use it to decorate your home or office. If it’s a souvenir glass or coffee mug from a trip you took, use it as a pen holder for your desk. You get the idea. The point is to keep only the things you use.

Next, review everything that is left. Ask yourself, “Where do I use this most?” The answer will be obvious for many items. Pots and pans go in the kitchen, clothing in the bedroom, etc. But, where in the kitchen do the pots and pans belong? Having things nearer to where you use them will make your life easier and save time. Having cookware in a cabinet near the stove and dinnerware in a cabinet near the table or the dishwasher makes perfect sense. Some items may be a little trickier. Fit them to your own personal lifestyle. Do you put on your makeup in your bedroom or do you use the bathroom mirror? If you answered both, then store your makeup in a bag that can be easily transported from room to room. Keep it in the room where you apply makeup the most.

Once you have decided where each item should go, see if there is anything else you can do to make use of the space you have. Buying shoe racks, drawer organizers, baskets, bins, etc. will pay off in the long run. If you are spatially challenged and need to store items in a closet, attic, or garage, labeling the bins and boxes used for storage will keep you from wasting precious time searching.

Don’t go crazy. Your shoes don’t need to be placed in rows according to the style, color, manufacturer and the date they were purchased. Use a simple system that works for your particular situation. Going overboard will make you nuts. Perhaps, you have six pairs of shoes. If that’s the case, then simply putting them away in your closet every time you remove them will work. If you have fifty pairs, you may want to group them together in your closet according to type such as sneakers, boots, high heels, etc.

Expect yourself to be diligent about keeping things in their place. If you decided your car keys go in a basket on a table by the front door, then ALWAYS put them there. You will never have to search for your car keys again. Check out “6 Tips for Getting Organized this Year” for more helpful hints on getting organized.

Information surfaces on 84 year olds death.

Corporate ladder climbing and poor corporate strategy kills 84 year old. Another sad day in American history! General Motors woes continue after the murder of its Pontiac division Sunday. Pontiacs mussel cars including the GTO, during the 60’s and the Trans-am, made famous in the 70’s, by the movie “Smokey and the Bandit”, are to be no more. Even the comeback of the Trans-Am in the 90’s could not save this historic company from the brutalities of greed and its CEO’s. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8FRiuPD-UBc&feature=related

Gifts Women Love

Gifts women love is the focus for our 15% off Halloween sale at Hubcaps and Gravy .com. We are also giving away a free gift with every order! Hurry this storewide sale ends November 1st 2010. Gifts women love make great Christmas or anytime gifts.

Procrastination…Why Do We Do It?

We know we need to take care of “it”; but we put it off. Why? Procrastination is defined as putting off doing something out of habitual carelessness or laziness. Some psychologists say it’s a way to cope with anxiety associated with starting or completing a task. Aside from the obvious lack of productivity, other problems associated with procrastinating are extra stress and guilt in our lives. So, what do we do about it? The following tips may just help you be less of a procrastinator than you thought possible.

Own your procrastination. Admit you are a chronic procrastinator. The first step to changing any bad habit is to admit your guilt. Don’t be too hard on yourself; just say “I am a procrastinator; and I don’t want to be anymore”. You may be in denial; however, deep down you know if you consistently put off tasks. Acceptance is powerful. Once you admit to yourself you have a problem, you can begin to take steps to resolve it.

Take the blame. Believe it or not, we all make a choice to procrastinate. It’s easy to be defensive; and put blame where it doesn’t belong by always claiming someone else is at fault. Some of us even blame it on our parents by saying things like “My mother was a procrastinator, too”. Taking responsibility for your own actions; and realizing your procrastination lies squarely on your own doorstep is very important.

Identify the problem areas. Write down all the ways in which you procrastinate. Making a list helps us clearly identify where we need to focus. Do you put off paying bills, returning phone calls, cleaning the house? How about postponing dentist or doctor appointments? Do you Christmas shop on Christmas Eve? All the tasks you put off need to go on the list. When you have your list you will know where you need to improve.

Set clear cut goals. We need to have a well defined goal in mind. Saying “I will not procrastinate anymore” is not as powerful as “I will not procrastinate on cleaning the house today”. Saying that you will not procrastinate anymore sounds like a daunting task that can make you feel helpless. Making a plan for yourself by defining the task and the time frame gives you control; and also, makes you feel powerful.

Remember that Rome wasn’t built in a day. Procrastination like all bad habits can be eliminated from your life with dedication and time. If you falter, don’t beat yourself up; just start again. Each time you complete a task that you would have put off in the past you will feel good about yourself. That feeling will give you the power to eliminate procrastination from your life once and for all.

For more useful information read Procrastination: Ten Things To Know

How Can I Afford Christmas Gifts?

Budgeting is mandatory in hard times. Running up credit card debt this Holiday Season is not the answer. Creative ideas and smart budgeting will make for a Merry Christmas and a Happy New year WITHOUT ADDED DEBT!

There are easy ways to stay within your weekly budget and still give everyone a gift; BUT, you need to start today. We are going to show you two easy things to start doing today; and also, show you gift ideas that will help you stay within your budget.

1)Skip Starbucks or your local coffee shop twice a week (or two cups of coffee). With savings of $7 to $8, in just eight weeks that’s $56 to $64 in gifts.

2)Take your lunch to work twice a week. That’s a savings of $10 to $20 a week. In just eight weeks that’s another $80 to $160 in gifts.

With just two easy steps you have between $136 to $224 to spend on Christmas gifts without increasing your budget 1 penny. For you it might be skipping the movies a few times or going out to dinner. A few sacrafices now will save you a lot later. One more very important point; do Not run out at the last minute to buy gifts. Procrastination will kill a budget with panic buying!

$80.00 Shoestring Budget Gift Ideas
Gift for a Toddler: Pound-A-Peg by Melissa and Doug $9.98 Sold Out

Gift for a Girl: Melissa and Doug Decorate-Your-Own Piggy Bank $6.98

Gift for a Girlfriend or Wife: Gold Oval In and Out Crystal Hoop Earrings $22.98

Gift for a Female Friend: Cranberry Pearl Earrings with Swarovski Crystals $6.98 Sold Out

Gift for a Male Friend : Celtic Knot Pendant Leather Cord Necklace $8.98 Sold Out

Gift for a Computer User: USB 2.0 Hub Robot $17.98

Total $73.88

Great Gifts for the $140.00 Budget
Gift for a Boy or Girl: Turbospoke Bike Toy $18.98

Gift for a Girl: Melissa and Doug Bake and Decorate Cupcake Set $19.98

Gift for a Girlfriend or Wife: Peridot and Sterling Silver Necklace and matching Stud Earrings $43.96

Gift for a Female Friend: Pearl Necklace with Pearl Earrings $16.98

Gift for a Male Friend: USB Travel Shaver $19.98

Gift for a Computer User: USB LED Lamp and Fan $19.98

Total $139.86

A little sacrifice and a few good ideas will help you have a more relaxing enjoyable holiday season without adding credit card debt or increasing your budget. Remember, DO NOT procrastinate! Start using these guidelines today. Have a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!

How to Make Leftovers into a Taste Tempting Dish

Many of us are constantly looking for useful tips to stretch our food dollar. One thing we can all do is limit food waste by using leftovers. Okay, okay. We know that many of you reading this article think you don’t like leftovers; and we agree that a plate full of last night's dinner popped into the microwave usually comes out less than appetizing. There are ways to make leftovers into tasty dishes; and no one will know they are eating the dreaded leftovers.

Become a master of disguise. Take elements from a previous meal; and turn them into something else. For instance, leftover roast beef is great for creating beef stew; or make open faced roast beef sandwiches topped with leftover mashed potatoes and gravy. Simply add shredded cheddar cheese to leftover mashed potatoes and bake for a scrumptious dish. Never throw out stale bread. Crumble any bread you might have leftover that is past its prime into a bowl. Then, add sugar, eggs, milk, vanilla, and cocoa. After combining the ingredients, bake into a wonderful bread pudding for a dessert that your family will love. You get the idea. Check out magazines or cookbooks for helpful hints; or just use your imagination.

To get you started here is a recipe that was developed when we were trying to find ways to keep from tossing leftover taco meat. We like this recipe so much that whenever we make tacos we try to have leftover beef just so we can have this the next day.

Burrito Pie

In a 9 inch square pan layer the following:
Crushed corn tortilla chips, enough to cover bottom of pan
One 15 oz. can pinto beans, pureed
About 2/3 to 1 cup of cooked ground beef seasoned with your favorite taco seasoning
black olives, sliced or crumbled– as many or as few as you like
2-3 T. medium salsa (You can use mild or hot salsa if you prefer.)
Top with shredded cheddar cheese. Bake at 350 degrees for 20-30 minutes until heated through and cheese is melted.
Top with a dollop of sour cream; and serve with a salad and/or rice. Makes 4-6 servings.
The ingredient amounts in this recipe can be varied according to your own personal taste.

How to Make Your Relationship Last a Lifetime

You meet someone, start to date, fall in love, and get married. After about a year and a half, romantic love starts to fade. You wake up one morning; and realize that you don’t feel quite the sizzle you once felt for your spouse. You start to notice his big ears; and he begins making comments about the extra pounds you have put on. So, now what? How do you keep your relationship in tact? Here are some tips and things you should know that just may help.



Communicate-Communicate-Communicate! Good conversation is so important in any relationship that we can’t stress it enough. Being able to express how you feel about anything and everything will bring you closer than you ever imagined. Don’t forget part of good communication is being a great listener. If your spouse needs to talk, make sure you give them your undivided attention; and make sure you HEAR them. A good practice is to repeat what you thought you heard to be sure you are on the same page.

Honesty is the best policy. Once trust is lost, it is very difficult to get it back. Lying about anything or being deceptive in any way will put you on the road to failure.

Respect your spouse. Honor the excellence, abilities, and qualities that made you fall in love in the first place by holding your spouse in the highest esteem.

Be a team player. Working together to reach your goals will help you reach them easier and faster. Any problem, even the most daunting ones seem less troublesome if you attack together. Just knowing that someone always has your back provides a sense of security and comfort.

Fight Fair. In any relationship, it’s inevitable that there will be disagreements. If you are angry it’s always best to wait until you cool off and can discuss the issue calmly. Remember, blows below the belt and cheap shots are not relationship builders. Angry words can create a lot of pain that can linger and fester. Agreeing to never go to sleep angry will motivate you to work things out before bedtime.

You must compromise. There will be times when you and your spouse just can’t agree. No matter what it takes, you must find some common ground. Give and take is tremendously important. If you try hard enough you can always find an acceptable solution to you both.

Talk it up. As time passes we often forget to tell those we love how we feel. Just telling your spouse how great they look in the new outfit they just bought goes a long way towards keeping love alive. Be generous with praise for their accomplishments. Everyone likes a pat on the back, even your spouse. Always say thank you; and never take your spouse for granted. Treat each other like you did when you first met. Say “I love you” as often as you did when you first fell in love.

Don’t joke about what’s bothering you. If you have something on your mind, discuss it calmly. Don’t make snide remarks disguised as jokes. They are always hurtful; and will just make matters worse.

Little things matter the most. Making a grand gesture by buying your spouse an expensive gift is nice; but the little things you fill every day with matter the most. If your spouse always takes out the trash or always does the dishes; surprise him or her by doing it before he or she has a chance. Take turns bringing each other a cup of coffee in bed every morning. Hold hands and sit close together on the sofa like you did when you were dating.

There is no guarantee when it comes to long lasting love; but with a little work and dedication you can live happily ever after.

How to Spend Wisely with Money Saving Tips

In today’s economy most of us are trying to save money any way we can. We are all aware of ways to save such as buying in bulk, discount sales, and using coupons. Here are a few money saving tips that we hope will be useful.

Shop alone if possible; and if not, pretend you are alone. Image is everything, right? We are all concerned with the image we portray even when we shop. If we shop with friends we tend to select a pricey brand over a more economical choice. Be on the alert if you are shopping in a crowd.

Don’t let temptation get you. Rid yourself of the barrage of catalogs and emails from your favorite stores. These tend to create the urge to splurge. You can stop the catalogs, direct mail ads, and store emails by visiting dmachoice.org. You can also unsubscribe from most email lists individually by following the instructions that are usually at the bottom of each email message.

Before you splurge, ask yourself “What does this really cost?” If you stop and think about how many hours you have to work in order to earn the money to pay for each item you consider buying, you will make better decisions about your purchases.
Don’t be average. Nielsen Company research shows that average Americans watch TV 153 hours per month. A study in the Journal of Consumer Research says people who watch a lot of TV tend to crave more material possessions since many of today’s popular shows portray an upscale lifestyle.

Resist mega bargains. Overspending is overspending even if you are getting a designer dress originally priced at $200 for $50. If you don’t absolutely love the dress, don’t buy it. A dress hanging in your closet that never gets worn is no bargain at any price.

Keep your eye on the prize. If you are saving for a great vacation, a new car, or a hot tub you will be more likely to stash the cash to reach your goal if you are constantly reminded. Put pictures on your refrigerator, the visor of your car, or in your wallet to help stave off impulse buys.

Free is always good, right? Wrong! Avoid free trials like the plague unless you are confident you will follow through with the usual required cancellation. Most of us are too lazy or forgetful to take the necessary steps when the free trial ends. Using cash pays. Leaving your credit cards at home when you shop so that you have to take a moment to think about each purchase will help curb overspending. People are more likely to buy only basic necessities when spending good old dollars and cents.

Ask yourself “Do I really need all the bells and whistles?” Whether you are buying a mini-van or a flat screen TV the extras add up. Consider whether the added features will still be desirable after the new wears off. Buying only the features you really need can save big bucks.

Follow this useful information; and watch your savings grow. Remember, as Ben Franklin would say “A penny saved is a penny earned”.

Great Tips That will Save you Money

Plan meals ahead of time: When you try to shop without meal planning you buy at random without considering the price. We buy a lot of products then try to prepare our meals around what we buy.

Do not go shopping when you are hungry: If you go to the store when you are hungry, everything looks good and you over buy. In fact you will tend to buy cookies, ice cream and snacks which have a high price tag. If you shop on your way home from work you are usually tired, hungry, in a hurry, and make bad decisions. If you plan your shopping trip the night before and have a snack after work, you will save money and make wiser decisions.

Buy store brands: Store brands are cheaper and are usually produced by well known brand name companies.

Use coupons: Combining products that are on sale with a coupon can save you even more. Save the coupons on products you use even if you do not need them right away. Coupons may not expire for months.

Look for good deals while you shop: If you find a good deal buy extra. Keep it on your shelf until you need it. Buy one get one free can be a great deal but two things to watch out for here are over pricing and expiration dates.

Make out a grocery list and stick to it!

Don’t buy on impulse: Impulse shopping will drive your costs sky high. The only time you should buy impulsively is on great deals.

Try not to buy cleaning and paper products at the grocery store: Grocery stores usually over price these type of products. The place to save on these items is at discount stores.

Tips for Bringing Home Baby to Big Brother or Big Sister

Welcoming home a new baby is a thrilling experience for parents and siblings. However, siblings can start to feel left out when they see how much attention gets lavished on the new baby. Following is some useful information that will help avoid sibling rivalry.

During the pregnancy include the older children in making the necessary preparations for the new baby. Allow them to voice their opinions on things such as nursery décor or baby names. Encouraging their input makes them feel involved and important.

Take advantage of sibling preparation classes offered at some hospitals.

Let siblings know what to expect. Having Mom away in a hospital for two or three days can be scary for some children if they don’t expect it.

Talk with them about their role as a big sister or big brother. Refer to the new baby as “our baby”. Let them know how lucky the new baby is to have them as a brother or sister.

Tell them the new baby won’t be able to do much at first; so they won’t be expecting a playmate right away.

Take out the older child’s baby book and baby photos. Have the whole family spend some time reminiscing about their baby years. This will help to create a bond with the new baby because they will feel they have something in common.

Sometimes older children appear to regress when a new baby arrives. This childish behavior may be the result of feeling stress. Don’t shame them for this behavior. Be sure and praise their milestones such as learning to tie shoes or mastering a new lesson at school.
Having a new baby in the house usually creates a certain amount of stress for everyone. Mom and Dad can be very serious simply because they are losing precious sleep. Try and lighten the overall mood by being silly, telling jokes, or watching a funny movie. Laughter goes a long way toward making everyone feel better. Show your love for them too.

Enlist the help of grandparents. Grandparents are the perfect people to give extra attention to the older children when Mom and Dad are busy with the new baby. Grandparents can take the older children on special outings to movies, playgrounds, etc. Grandparents are generally glad to baby sit with the new baby while Mom, Dad and the older children have a much needed night out.

No matter how hectic things get, both Mom and Dad should set aside some one-on-one time for each older child.

Let the older child be involved in the new baby’s care as much as possible. Depending on their age they can assist with things like baths and dressing the baby. Let them pick out the outfit the new baby will wear to come home from the hospital.

The most important thing to remember is everyone especially older children need time to adjust to a new baby. A little patience and understanding is usually all it takes to help a sibling adjust to sharing Mom and Dad’s attention. For more things you should know about adding a new baby to your family click here.

Labor Day Travel Tips & Useful Information

According to AAA more than 34 million Americans will travel at least 50 miles from home this Labor Day holiday. Most will travel by car; but about 5% will fly. Whether you are traveling by car or by plane this weekend, being prepared will make your trip more enjoyable. Following are some tips that will help you have a great time.

Helpful Hints for Hitting the Road

Before you leave check your car’s fluid levels and wipers. Also, it is very important to check out your tires for wear and proper tire pressure. Low tire pressure can cause a blow out and ruin a holiday getaway or worse. Don’t forget to check your spare, too. Plan your route. Knowing the roads and exits to take ahead of time helps avoid accidents. Take along a map even if you have GPS in case of a malfunction. Use Google Maps to print the map you need. Another good resource for maps is AAA. Leave early when there is less traffic on the road. Avoid rush hour if possible since this is when traffic is heaviest. Drive during the day when it’s safer because visibility is better. Also, you are less likely to encounter a drunk driver as they tend to be more prevalent at night. Stop when you get tired. Remember large trucks have blind spots. If you can’t see the truck driver in their mirror, then they can’t see you. Don’t cut in front of large trucks. Due to their size and weight, they take longer to stop. Be sure to lock your car every time you leave it, even it it’s just for a short rest stop. Returning to your car to find it or your belongings missing is sure to spoil your good time. Take along hand sanitizer or sanitizing wipes and use them when you leave each public place. A small spray bottle filled with alcohol also works well. Follow use with moisturizer. Put together a do it yourself travel kit with books, magazines, travel games, puzzles, sticker books, video games, small toys, etc. for your passengers. Keeping the kids busy usually makes for a less stressful trip. Bringing snacks and drinks will decrease stops and save money.

Things You Should Know if Taking to the Air.

Get to the airport an hour and a half before your flight. Have your ticket, boarding pass, ID, etc. in hand when needed. Don’t over pack. Most airlines charge for extra bags or overweight bags. Don’t put valuables in your checked luggage. Always place these items in your carry on bag. Put at least one change of clothing in your carry on bag just in case your luggage is lost. Always carry on any medication you need. Be sure your carry on bag is within the airlines’ size limits. If it’s too large, you may be asked to check it when you board the planeRemember to drink fluids to stay hydrated while you are on the plane. Move around a bit if possible during your flight. Taking your MP3 player, portable DVD player, and your laptop computer along is a great way to pass the time if you have a long flight. Be sure to put these items in a padded laptop computer bag to protect them. Be prepared to take these out of the bag at security check points.
Attach a unique luggage tag on all your bags to help you identify them. A brightly colored ribbon tied onto the bag handle also works well. You will be glad you did when you are trying to locate your bags among the sea of bags at baggage claim

Whether driving or flying make a conscious effort to enjoy all aspects of the trip. Expect to wait. Be patient. Don’t let little hassles and your emotions ruin your getaway. Be polite and courteous to people you encounter along the way. Remember you catch a lot more flies with honey than vinegar.

Hubcaps and Gravy hopes this information is useful to you; and wishes everyone a safe and Happy Labor Day!

Surviving Diasters

Whether it’s a man-made or a natural disaster, we all need to be prepared. Emergency officials will provide relief;however, it could take hours or even days before they get to you. Having an emergency kit and plan is essential for survival. Following is very useful information to help you get prepared.

Get an emergency supply kit - You can purchase one or put together a do it yourself kit. Either way, here are some of the items your kit should include:

Water - one gallon per person per day for at least three days
Food – at least a three day supply of non-perishable food (don’t forget the can opener)
First Aid Kit - handbook, bandages, adhesive tape, sterile dressings, antiseptic towelettes, antibiotic ointment, burn ointment, sterile gloves, pain relievers, diarrhea medication, alcohol, hydrogen peroxide, antacids, antihistamines, fever reducer, scissors, thermometer, tweezers, petroleum jelly, prescription medications you take regularly
Other items - flashlight and extra batteries, tools, maps, whistle, garbage bags, extra clothing, blankets, portable radio, cash

For more information on items you should have in your kit.

Make a plan for communicating - Your family may not be together when an emergency arises; so deciding how you will communicate with each other before hand is very important.

Identify an out-of-town contact - make sure every family member knows who to call and the phone number.
Plan a meeting place - discuss how you will get back together; and where you will try to meet, etc.
Determine emergency plans - ask about emergency procedures at places where your family may be when disaster strikes such as work, school, and daycare.

Read more tips for creating a plan.

One of the most important things you can do before the unexpected happens is be informed. Learn what types of emergencies are likely to occur in your area; and how you will be notified. Have a family discussion about what you will do in situations that may arise. Be sure each family member knows where your emergency kit is; and what they are to do when the worst happens. For more useful information on emergency preparedness go to Ready America.

Soul Mates Meet Online

Let me begin by saying that the women in my family are dreamers. Maybe we don’t dream any more than the average person; but we dream vivid stories that play out like movies in our minds with elaborate backdrops and great attention to detail. Some of us have recurring dreams. Some of us have dreams that are visions of the future. I don’t know if we possess psychic ability or if these dreams are some sort of out of body experience. Call it what you will. As for me, I’ve had both; and hardly a night goes by that I don’t have at least one dream. Most are quickly forgotten upon awaking; but on rare occasions I have had dreams that made such an impact on me, I can remember them even after the passage of many years.

When I was about 14 years old I had a dream that probably wasn’t unlike dreams that many other girls have at that age. So why did I remember it all these years? For most of the years I never knew the answer; but I feel I have it now. First, the dream…

I was sleeping over at a friend’s. Before bedtime nothing unusual happened. We made brownies, watched TV, gossiped, etc. Afterwards, we fell asleep wondering what great fun we would have the next day. As dreams often do, it occurred just before I woke up. It was so real I could feel it. I don’t mean I could imagine feeling it; I mean I COULD FEEL IT! I was in my friend’s den. I don’t know what I was doing there. I was just there. Then he came in…tall, reddish blonde curly hair, blue eyes, just a hint of freckles. He wasn’t my ideal, not drop dead gorgeous; but there was something…something I couldn’t put my finger on. He didn’t speak; and neither did I. Music was playing from somewhere out of the woodwork. So we just started dancing…slow dancing…standing oh so close to each other. It is important to note that I had never slow danced with a boy before. Somehow in my dream, I knew exactly what I was doing…or maybe he did. He sure seemed like he did. He didn’t appear to be much older than me, but he seemed worldly. He seemed to know me; but I didn’t know him. I had never seen him before. Even so, he was familiar. We just kept dancing, holding each other close. There still weren’t any words, but it didn’t matter. It felt so good…so right…like I could stay there forever. And then...and then…it happened. He looked tenderly at me. He lowered his head. His lips touched mine. They were so soft, so tender. He was kissing me. What? A kiss? NO! THE KISS! A kiss like no other. I felt like I was melting. Again, I emphasize the word “felt” because I COULD FEEL IT! There was so much in that kiss…so much love…so much promise. Then, it was over. Not the kiss, the dream. I was awake. I desperately wanted to go back to sleep. I didn’t want to lose him, to lose that feeling. I couldn’t close my eyes for thinking about the dream, for thinking about HIM. I had never kissed a boy, but from that moment on I knew what it would…no, I knew what it SHOULD feel like. To this day, I can still feel that kiss. After all, it was my first.

In all the years since I had that dream; I have only shared it with a few people. I guess I always knew it was somehow important; but it really didn’t enter my life on an everyday basis. I would recall it once in a while when something would trigger the memory. I would remember fondly; and once again wonder who HE was. Then life’s realities would take him away again. As the years went by I recalled the dream less and less; but I never forgot.

The dream was far from my mind when I met Bruce. Met is a relevant word here. We “met” online, in a chat room to be exact. He made me laugh; and there was something about him. There was an immediate connection like two pieces of a puzzle that you’ve been looking for, something I detected based solely on our conversations. We didn’t exchange photos right away. In fact, it didn’t even come up in conversation. We were happy just talking or typing, actually; and that is how our relationship began. We would meet in the chat room or instant message each other or exchange emails. We talked and laughed and joked about everything. We got to know each other, probably better than most people who are dating do. I thought we would never meet face-to-face as he was so far away from Tennessee. California…isn’t that a foreign country? He said “never say never”. This was how it went for a few months. Then he asked if he could call me. I didn’t have to think about it too hard because I wanted him to call me. I wanted to hear the voice that went with all those typed conversations. I gave him my number; and he called that night. We talked for hours…until the next day…until his ear fell off. I still remember that phone call. I don’t remember another time in my life when I’ve laughed so hard or had more fun than I did then.

Ok, so he called. In the light of the next day, I began to wonder what “never say never” meant. We still chatted online. We still exchanged emails. He called every few days. Soon, it was time. I wasn’t expecting it. I was checking email as usual; and there it was. An email with his photo attached. I wondered briefly if I should look at it….very briefly, that is. Then, I did. I just sat there staring at the reddish blonde curly hair and the blue eyes I had seen before; and I COULD FEEL IT! The dancing, the lips, the kiss, the melting…it all came back like being wrapped in a warm blanket when you’ve just come in from the freezing cold…comforting…just what you need.

NOW, I knew. I knew why I had the dream, why it had always seemed so important, why I met Bruce by chance in a chat room out of millions and millions of people in the online world, why I felt the connection immediately. I knew he was THE ONE. The one who makes me complete, makes me be a better me. The one I’m supposed to spend my life with. The one I love with every fiber of my being. Mo Anam Cara (My soul mate). Not everyone is as lucky as me. I had a road map in the form of a dream to lead me to the love of my life. I don’t know if I could have done anything differently to find Bruce sooner. I don’t think so. As they say, timing is everything. So here I am, in that foreign country called California married to the red-headed stranger; and I CAN STILL FEEL IT!

Copyright © 2010 Denise Shea - All Rights Reserved

Things You Should Know About Pet Doors

If you have indoor/outdoor pets you know that they always want to go in or out at the most inopportune times. A fix for this problem is to install a pet door. Although the burden of letting your pet in and out of the door is alleviated, other problems will arise. Before buying and installing a pet door you should know a few facts.

First, you need a hole in your door. If you don’t have the tools to do this yourself, you will have to hire someone or get help from a friend to install the door. If you decide later you don't want the pet door anymore, you will have to replace your door at a big expense.

Secondly, the flap that covers the opening, gives some pets trouble. Some pets will not go through with the flap down. Removing the flap allows easy access for bugs and creepy crawlers to invade your home. Additionally, if the flap remains on the door the wind may cause it to flap back and forth and be noisy.

Then, there are the party animals. With a pet door there isn’t much you can do when your pet invites other pets in the neighborhood over to party. Uninvited visitors will be eating your food, drinking and carrying on. Beware of party crashers like raccoons, possums, or skunks. They see a pet door as an open invitation to your home.

There are options available that may help like electromagnetic or infrared collars for all your pets. The idea is that a special collar will automatically unlock the pet door so your pet may enter. Any creature without a collar would not be able to unlock and enter the door. Some problems associated with this option are collars being lost, pets becoming entangled by their collar, and additional expense for replacements and batteries. Before you buy this type of pet door, be sure the loss of a collar does not mean you will have to replace the entire set (door and collar).

Having a pet door can be beneficial; but there are many things to consider before you buy. Know the facts before you install.

A Guide to Safer Internet Shopping

How do you know when a website is trustworthy? What can you look for to help determine a website's credibility? Here are some tips and things you should know:

•Look toward the bottom of the page; and see what is there. Usually, websites put their policies and trust seals at the bottom of the page in the footer area. Are there any links to their policies? Are there any trust seals anywhere on the page? This is where you can start to find information to build trust. No trust seals, No trust!

•Click on a trust seal to see what they have to say. Examples include VeriSign, McAfee, Go Daddy, etc. Does it tell about encryption? Does it name the site you are looking at or the website host? Is it actually a link to information? Just having the image on the page isn’t good enough!

•Do they have an accreditation seal such as the Better Business Bureau (BBB)? If it is a BBB seal click on it. The BBB has information about the company and a grade. The company has to adhere to the BBB’s code of business practices to keep their accreditation.

•Look at their privacy and security policies. BBB members have to adhere to and post strict polices to keep their accreditation.

•Do they use PayPal for payment? PayPal has a very good service for your protection. You can have an account with them so you are not always giving out your credit card information. At Hubcaps and Gravy you can use Paypal with your card; and we do not have access to your credit card information!

•Is there contact information on the site including address, email address and phone number?

•At the checkout page, look at the URL. Does it start with HTTPS? The “S” means your information is encrypted and secure.

•Don’t be influenced by fancy bells and whistles of any website. Check Them Out!

Proper Lighting Reduces Eyestrain & Computer Vision Syndrome

DON'Ts
Don’t use bright overhead lighting.
Don’t work near a sunny window, if possible.
Don’t work in a dark room.
Don’t use a CRT monitor (television type).
Don’t have bright lights behind your monitor.

DOs
Do use LED lamps. They reduce heat, energy use and eyestrain.
Do use desk lamps. Use adjustable desk lamps placed at the sides of your monitor.
Do close shades. Use dark curtains or move your desk away from window areas, whenever possible.
Do use LCD flat screen monitors. Television type monitors flicker increasing eyestrain.
Do reduce glare. Turn your computer off and see how much glare is on your screen; then reposition to reduce glare as much as possible.
Do take a break. Use a digital timer to remind yourself to take a break. Mayo Clinic says A good rule of thumb is to follow the 20/20/20 rule: Every 20 minutes, take your eyes off your computer and look at something 20 feet away for at least 20 seconds.
Do reduce your screen's brightness if you work in a darkened room.
Do clean your screen. Dust and smudges make viewing more difficult.

In today’s workplace many people spend a large part of their work day staring at a computer screen resulting in eyestrain or computer vision syndrome. Eyestrain symptoms may include sore, tired, dry, itchy, burning, or watery eyes. Other signs are sore neck or back, shoulder pain, and blurred or double vision. Eyestrain doesn’t have serious consequences; but it can be very uncomfortable and cause a reduction in your productivity.
Changing your workspace by adding appropriate lighting can really help. If you're reading, writing, or “hunt and peck” typing, use an adjustable desk lamp. LED lamps used below eye level have advantages over incandescent and florescent lamps. Incandescent bulbs are hot and use a lot of electricity. Florescent lighting creates a washed out look; and the ballasts produce a lot of heat. LED lamps use the least amount of energy; and are much cooler than other choices.
Find out more about eyestrain and tips to alleviate it.